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18 Jan 2015

Coping With The Loss Of A Pet

Posted By : Guest

Our pets really are our best friends. They are loyal, pass no judgement, and they are there in times of need, so it’s no surprise that some of us feel closer to our pets than we do human beings. This is why it isn’t strange for people to experience intense grief at the loss of a pet, often rivalling the loss of friend or family member, please be assured that these feelings are completely normal.

What makes it difficult to cope with the loss of a terminally ill animal is that they are unable to understand the process of dying, we are only able to communicate with them to a certain extent. When humans fall terminally ill they are able to have conversations with friends and family and this is a form of closure for their loved ones.

Losing a pet is truly a heart breaking thing to happen so here are a few ways in which pet owners can help themselves, and others, to carry on after the death of a family pet.

1. Stick to your routine as much as possible

Many pet owners schedule their lives around their pet’s requirements. For example, if you’re used to a daily morning walk then this will not only be great exercise for the dog but will also help to boost your level of activity too. Try and continue to get out and about, this will help you to stay active.

2. Saying “goodbye” properly

Holding a ceremony to say goodbye to your pet doesn’t have to be an extravagant one. It is very important that you set time aside for you and your family so you are able to remember the good times together. You’ll may also find that this will help with closure.

It’s up to you how you dispose of your pet’s remains. Many people decide to bury them in a spot that is special to the whole family. Another option could be a cremation, keeping ashes could be a real comfort for some people. A more extreme measure would be to take the remains to a taxidermist, again, this is down to personal preference – there is no right or wrong answer.

3. Frame your old photos

Photos and scrap books are a great way of savouring past memories. Something visual will always remind you of the positive times and will over write the negatives.

4. Others have to grieve too.

Elderly people may be more affected by the death of a pet due to such a long term relationship. The loss of the pet may also cause them to revisit the pain of losing previous loved ones. Children may also be significantly affected, so it’s important to be honest with a child about the death of a pet. If they understand that the animal is no longer in pain, that they are in a better place, and that they will also be alive in their memories, then they will feel reassured.

5. Other pets in your home

Just like humans, pets can grieve too. Animals are able to form their own unique relationships especially if they’ve been lifelong companions. Give your remaining pet(s) a little more love and attention during this difficult time, will help to fill the void that has been left.

6. Adopting another pet

It’s important that you think carefully about adding another pet to your home because you’re the only one who’ll know when the right time is. If you add another pet to your home too quickly then this could make the grieving process worse. If you’ve known that your pet has been ill, or has been aging for some time then you may be in a better position to think about a new addition to the family, you will have had more time to come to terms with the situation.

7. Support

If grief is becoming too much to handle then you should surround yourself with others who may have experienced similar feelings. Support groups are usually available locally, so take a look online. Sometimes it’s difficult for others to understand the amount of pain you experience when losing a pet. It doesn’t matter what other people think, everyone has totally different reactions to death. You need to take time to deal with grief in the right way, and know that the right support is there if you need it.

Our thoughts are with all of those who have sadly lost a pet during their lifetimes.